tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27398888.comments2023-11-05T04:38:37.751-06:00Wistful Wanderlustpiscesgrrlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12279344142538980436noreply@blogger.comBlogger1760125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27398888.post-23696885668080729752013-07-09T10:36:35.280-06:002013-07-09T10:36:35.280-06:00Hi,
My name is KC Owens; I’m a college student wh...Hi,<br /><br />My name is KC Owens; I’m a college student who loves to travel! While cruising the Internet, I found your site and really enjoyed reading your posts. Personally, I think traveling is a necessary part of life as you’re exposed to all sorts of new cultures and experiences. While enjoying time abroad, I've found it's crucial to fully understand the dangers that you might encounter along the way. These mishaps are part of life and certainly part of travel but it’s always a great idea to take preventive measures to help ensure your safety while abroad.<br /><br />I was hoping that you would allow me to write a post for your site to share my travel safety tips with your readers? I put a lot of time and passion into my traveling and I would love to help others by offering safety advice as a result of the mistakes and triumphs I've had. I look forward to hearing from you!<br /><br />Best,<br /><br />KC OwensKChttp://www.bloggingacrossthepond.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27398888.post-61532596026863263322013-07-03T13:13:56.002-06:002013-07-03T13:13:56.002-06:007-3-13 Just read A Great Little Quip About Brady ...7-3-13 Just read A Great Little Quip About Brady And The Superman Movie In This Weeks Edition Of The rock river Times. Way To Go Brady. Keep Up The Good Work. <br />Jamie B.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27398888.post-50860045434994405842012-04-11T12:21:51.407-06:002012-04-11T12:21:51.407-06:00Thanks! I'll try to be more open and yes I am ...Thanks! I'll try to be more open and yes I am worried about all those things. Sometimes if you give in a little too much I think you might just get taken advantage of. Maybe if we state reasons why we don't think we should allow it then he will see it from our perspective instead of just saying no. But every time we try to have open discussions he tunes us out or walks away. I always try to be open minded and give consideration to his requests. Mom not so much and that's when the real conflict begins! Thanks for the adviceJamienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27398888.post-50496733497597437352012-04-10T22:31:13.316-06:002012-04-10T22:31:13.316-06:00The short answer is Yes. :)
Of course I would dis...The short answer is Yes. :)<br />Of course I would discuss it. Why wouldn't I discuss it? The bigger the crisis - imagined or otherwise - the more important the need for discussion and dialogue and respect for opinions and thoughtful problem-solving as partners who are on the same team and who, presumably and hopefully, want each other to be happy. Why can't you get creative on the sleeping arrangements in FL? Can you really not afford additional airfare or is that just an excuse? What if she paid her own airfare? What are you REALLY concerned about? That you're being permissive? That the neighbors will talk? That they'll have sex? It would make sense to be open with what you're really worried about; I'm betting it's not money, and I'm certain you can get creative on sleeping space. And if you're worried about sex, please - if they want to have sex, they'll find a way to have it. <br /><br />If you squash dialogue in favor of "I said no and that's final" you remove yourself as a person who is reasonable and willing to consider - REALLY consider - your son's thoughts on the matter. Don't you want to be the person he talks to? Asks for advice? Shares fears? If you want your son to be reasonable and thoughtful when making decisions, be reasonable and thoughtful in how you discuss these hot button issues. Model what you want. <br /><br />People like to use their adult status as a free pass - as in "I know best, so what I say goes." In my opinion, as the adults, we should have more control of our wild assumptions, more creativity in problem-solving, and more wisdom to share. <br /><br />For a longer version on keeping dialogue open and being a person your teen will trust, read this book. Seriously. READ IT. I did. It's amazing. http://www.amazon.com/Parent-Teen-Breakthrough-Relationship-Approach/dp/0452266165piscesgrrlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12279344142538980436noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27398888.post-84685153959524178142012-04-10T11:48:53.860-06:002012-04-10T11:48:53.860-06:00Nice Laura, but how do you handle your 16 year ol...Nice Laura, but how do you handle your 16 year old son asking if his 16 year old girlfriend can go with on your Florida vacation when there's no extra bedrooms? Or we can't afford additional airfare. Do you negotiate that? Or how about when he gets mad at you because we won't buy him the loud muffler 2 seater sports car that is sure to land him tickets and inflate your already too high insurance rates. Would you negotiate that?Jamienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27398888.post-3014549877912818632012-01-13T01:13:38.133-06:002012-01-13T01:13:38.133-06:00Well, howdy. I just checked in to Google Reader fo...Well, howdy. I just checked in to Google Reader for the first time in many months and found that you had blogged recently!<br /><br />Ch-ch-ch-changes. How dare the kids grow up so quickly? I hope Brady's move goes well and I understand your very mixed feelings on his move so far away from home. Hang in there....lorihttp://www.lorimortimer.com/blognoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27398888.post-61568615948537931992011-12-21T23:49:33.742-06:002011-12-21T23:49:33.742-06:00I haven't been reading blogs for awhile. Nice ...I haven't been reading blogs for awhile. Nice post! I am finding that the "you'll pay for it later" isn't true.RevitaDerm Creamhttp://www.revita-derm.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27398888.post-77207431406129021022011-12-16T05:25:19.426-06:002011-12-16T05:25:19.426-06:00Saved up all your words until they became diamonds...Saved up all your words until they became diamonds!!Extenzehttp://www.extenzemaleenhancement.net/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27398888.post-64299934891122969232011-05-19T10:28:36.275-06:002011-05-19T10:28:36.275-06:00Hi Nina,
(Long-delayed reply - sorry!)
You'r...Hi Nina,<br /><br />(Long-delayed reply - sorry!)<br /><br />You're on the right track. What I mean is that my immediate reaction to something dangerous (yes, a desire to use guns, or - to use some real examples of things my son currently wants to do - drive cross-country, or take a 3-day solo canoe trip) is not to say "that's crazy" or "OMG that is way too dangerous." I might say, "Hmmm, that's a cool idea! There are lots of details we need to figure out for that to happen." <br /><br />I know some parents who seemingly support it by saying "if you do all the necessary preparation (safety, etc), then you can do this" but that still just puts it onto the kid and takes you out of the equation - not to mention it sets them up for failure because figuring out cross-country road trip logistics can be tricky - how will he pay for gas? How far can he travel in a day without getting sleepy? Where will he sleep? What about flat tires, oil changes, etc? Will he carry cash? Who do we know along the route?<br /><br />Making them figure it all out on their own is a passive-agressive way of telling them no - because many kids will get derailed as soon as they try to figure out those logistics without help.<br /><br />But it won't make him stop wanting to do it. :)<br /><br />Instead, I am a welcome part of the equation if I help him work out those logistics - and it gives me peace of mind that if he chooses to do it (and he just drove 7 hrs to Ohio Monday night - not exactly cross-country for us, but it was a great warm-up road trip!) we've tried to plan for various scenarios and have our emergency plans in place.<br /><br />As soon as you react with "no" or "that's too dangerous" you've put yourself and your child on different teams. Your reactionary decision won't make your child say "she's right - I shouldn't do this." It will, most likely, make her say "Mom never lets me do ANYTHING" or some other dividing thought.<br /><br />Be your child's partner *no matter what*.<br /><br />Will you be at Life is Good? If so, see you in a few days!piscesgrrlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12279344142538980436noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27398888.post-62208258342723420722011-04-29T21:37:56.365-06:002011-04-29T21:37:56.365-06:00I'm really sorry, I haven't been on this s...I'm really sorry, I haven't been on this site for a while, thank you, I'm researching Unschooling now, no words can say thank you enough, <br /><br />It just came up on 'blogs you might like', and I really do like your blog.<br /><br /><3PhsycoFiddlerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12290436750537199035noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27398888.post-83832804279319984822011-04-11T06:59:56.159-06:002011-04-11T06:59:56.159-06:00Laura,
Thank you for this beautiful post. We ha...Laura,<br /><br />Thank you for this beautiful post. We have been growing into unschooling for about 2 years using mainly the idea of saying 'Yes' more. It is going great, and just keeps getting better. I do have a question about part of your post:<br /><br />-=-I am that mom who sees her kids' interests and desires, no matter how unusual or dangerous, as valid, worthy, and do-able.-=-<br /><br />Will you give me an example of what you mean by 'dangerous' here and how you would help to make the interest/desire as one that is doable?<br /><br />Here is what I am thinking you meant, please let me know if I am on track. If the interest was 'guns' - provide supervision/safety information and types of guns that are suitable for the child's maturity level? Beginning at nerf, maybe moving onto air soft, then bb guns, etc. as the child shows that he/she can use them safely.<br /><br />Thanks!<br /><br />Nina, Francisco, Joel (12), Julia (7)<br /><br />P.S. I found your blog on the LIG conference website. We are hoping to be there next month!Ninahttp://redknot@ymail.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27398888.post-77544650970048034162011-04-05T04:05:53.178-06:002011-04-05T04:05:53.178-06:00Thanks for sharing interesting things with all of ...Thanks for sharing interesting things with all of us. I like way of your thought process.Hydroxatone Reviewshttp://www.articlesmoz.com/hydroxatone-reviewsnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27398888.post-72905920630166458372011-03-22T23:02:53.400-06:002011-03-22T23:02:53.400-06:00I have that picture of you and your husband in fro...I have that picture of you and your husband in front of me, and the "security word" I have to type to post this comment is "boning." I think I forgot what I was going to say.<br /><a href="http://www.articlesmoz.com/p90x-workout-program/" rel="nofollow">P90X</a><br /><a href="http://www.resveratrolsources.net/" rel="nofollow">Radialabs</a>Radialabshttp://www.articlesmoz.com/radialabs-instant-wrinkle-reducer-reviewsnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27398888.post-63555000939660953192011-03-18T04:49:09.614-06:002011-03-18T04:49:09.614-06:00I haven't been reading blogs for awhile. Nice ...I haven't been reading blogs for awhile. Nice post! I am finding that the "you'll pay for it later" isn't true.<br /><br /><a href="http://www.resveratrolsources.net/" rel="nofollow">Radialabs</a>Radialabshttp://www.articlesmoz.com/radialabs-instant-wrinkle-reducer-reviewsnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27398888.post-18678761719865807522011-03-16T23:38:55.476-06:002011-03-16T23:38:55.476-06:00I haven't been reading blogs for awhile. Nice ...I haven't been reading blogs for awhile. Nice post! I am finding that the "you'll pay for it later" isn't true.P90X Workouthttp://www.articlesmoz.com/p90x-workout-programnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27398888.post-3197267627317103052011-03-15T03:43:30.438-06:002011-03-15T03:43:30.438-06:00I'm not there, so it's nice to see you her...I'm not there, so it's nice to see you here! Thanks for sharing interesting things with all of us. I like way of your thought process.P90X Workouthttp://www.articlesmoz.com/p90x-workout-programnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27398888.post-36837990725697688352011-02-02T03:52:51.373-06:002011-02-02T03:52:51.373-06:00It's blogs like this that make me want to writ...It's blogs like this that make me want to write my own. Although i think you are better at making something interesting.Extenzehttp://www.extenzemaleenhancement.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27398888.post-11347901632679199152011-02-02T01:09:55.560-06:002011-02-02T01:09:55.560-06:00It's blogs like this that make me want to writ...It's blogs like this that make me want to write my own. Although i think you are better at making something interesting.Extenzehttp://www.extenzemaleenhancement.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27398888.post-44056712207183186322011-01-26T14:51:31.354-06:002011-01-26T14:51:31.354-06:00I have been that mom, for the most part, too :) B...I have been that mom, for the most part, too :) But I have also for the most part done things I am not proud of now: punished, berated, controlled.....but now I am on the path to unschooling, or moreso-radically unschooling my boys :) <br /><br />Also, I know you from HOUSE :)Shay Brookshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04545666558279446386noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27398888.post-41419212561806093022011-01-16T12:32:58.204-06:002011-01-16T12:32:58.204-06:00So inspiring, thank you.So inspiring, thank you.Karen Jameshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02300996176436767649noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27398888.post-46323960570275612442011-01-11T09:53:23.877-06:002011-01-11T09:53:23.877-06:00Obviously, I haven't been reading blogs for aw...Obviously, I haven't been reading blogs for awhile. Nice post! I am finding that the "you'll pay for it later" isn't true.Beverlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13543690962370750842noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27398888.post-30257737074068239612010-12-28T09:52:59.404-06:002010-12-28T09:52:59.404-06:00PhsycoFiddler,
"It's never too late.&quo...PhsycoFiddler,<br /><br />"It's never too late." :)<br /><br />A couple ideas, for what they're worth... print this out and leave it for your mum to find. Get a used copy of the book "Parent/Teen Breakthrough: The Relationship Approach" (http://www.amazon.com/Parent-Teen-Breakthrough-Relationship-Approach/dp/0452266165) and leave it for her to find (or implore her to read it) - it's about how to create this kind of relationship with your teen. (Your mom is probably just defaulting into the typical parent/teen relationship because that, unfortunately, is "the norm" all around us.) Read up on unschooling, find an unschooling conference near you, and GO. You'll find community there. And finally, FIND someone to talk to. A friend, a relative, anyone - when our given family doesn't provide what we need, we find it in our chosen family. <br /><br />How'd you stumble upon my blog? Hugs to you.<br />Lpiscesgrrlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12279344142538980436noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27398888.post-20391771969021049802010-12-27T22:14:59.321-06:002010-12-27T22:14:59.321-06:00Your words brought me to tears, in all honesty.
I ...Your words brought me to tears, in all honesty.<br />I wish I had a mum like you.<br />I really do.<br />I'm sixteen and my mum and I don't talk, and whenever we do, she she always assumes, so she gets angry at me.<br />I'm an only child, so I have like NO ONE to talk to either.<br />I wish there were more mums like you.PhsycoFiddlerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12290436750537199035noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27398888.post-35724171665931065292010-11-08T09:32:59.930-06:002010-11-08T09:32:59.930-06:00Ha, its blogs like this that make me want to write...Ha, its blogs like this that make me want to write my own. Although i think you are better at making something interesting.<br /><br /><br />Locomotives, bachmann, lionel model trains, trains o scale and freight cars passenger cars <a href="http://www.trainsoscaleus.com" rel="nofollow">trains o scale</a> <br /> model trains.trains o scalehttp://www.trainsoscaleus.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27398888.post-64538197147277187112010-10-22T09:52:59.866-06:002010-10-22T09:52:59.866-06:00Beautifully said.Beautifully said.Carolhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16774903259772280962noreply@blogger.com